A 7-day transformative
Deschooling Experience!

Psssst!
Directors, facilitators, parents: this is for you!

Are you an unschooling parent longing for true partnership with your kids?

Are you part of a learning community (as a parent, facilitator or director) - and dream of learning how to co-create a conscious culture?

What is The Shift?

The Shift is a 7-day life-changing training for folks that want to transform how they relate to kids and support their learning, autonomy and freedom outside the conventional school system.

We like referring to The Shift as a Descooling Experience. Why? Because Deschooling is about the process of change that comes from walking away from systems that are limiting, harmful and disempowering. And that is what The Shift boils down to!

If you want to gain more freedom in life and build equitable & consent-based relationships with others and with yourself - this training is for you!

What’s the purpose?

We come together to understand where our limiting beliefs & programmings come from and why it’s been so hard to change.

We do this by looking at many systems (not just schools) so that we can see how we have each internalized them.

Then we dismantle those limitations and begin to reprogram our thinking and communication.

The goal is to feel more confident in your non-conventional path; have more joy in your life & deepen our connection to the people around us (kids & adults alike).

Sounds yummy? We can assure you it is!

What’s it like?

During the span of a week we focus on co-creating an intentional community built on consent, trust, authenticity and empathy. That’s the foundation for an optimal learning environment within which we all will unlearn and learn as much as we are ready for.

We practice tools of connection, liberation and communication to help us move into independence, interdependence, and equitable relationships. 

What that looks like? Well, like a lot of play, group dynamics, art of hosting-techniques, deep reflecting, vulnerable conversations - and really anything the group dreams up!

All it takes is openness, willingness and commitment to the process.

"I’m so grateful for the beautiful human connections and opportunities to evolve as a result of my experience at The Shift. It's challenging to find the words to describe the deschooling experience The Shift immersed us in, but if I can summarize it in one word, I would say evolutionary. This experience not only pushes you to re-examine hard wired beliefs and social conditioning around schooling and being in relationship with young people, but the facilitators create a space that naturally allows you to show up as your full self without fearing judgement for exploring parts of you that intuitively feel right but could not be supported or even allowed to be revealed in schoolish settings.

THIS experience is exactly what they want you and your learners to feel in your self-directed learning communities. It's also an experience I have NEVER felt in any educational conference, training, or workshop I've participated in over the last 20 years (except for Beyond Diversity 101).

Our learning journey didn't start with the introduction of titles, degrees, and long winded stories about our "expertise". It started with a clear understanding that our imperfections and mistakes along the learning process will be equally valued and celebrated with the gifts and wisdom each of us bring to our learning community. We didn't sit and receive a lecture or were PowerPointed to death on deschooling & unschooling. We lived & practiced it in action in all of its messiness for an entire week together. This is the magic of The Shift!"

Chemay Morales-James

"The Shift is a week full of gentle invitations to look deeply (or not) into our beliefs, where they come from and how are they serving us in our lives and interactions through open conversations, sharing, games and reflections. In case we find they don't serve us, we have the opportunity to learn, explore and practice tools that enable us to change our typical responses bases on those beliefs and any time we don't quite get it, we have the opportunity to speak up and celebrate joyfully together.

I used to struggle with how to transmit to my male partner the value, connection and growth we could achieve within ourselves and our tribe. The Shift has more than helped me, it has supported me in experiencing how building community based on trust, consent, listening, non-judgement and love is possible among diverse, unique beings.

I feel I have blossomed into a less reactive, frustrated, stressed and annoyed human to a more connected, authentic,  joyful, energetic, patient and open being after this experience. This process of transformation has allowed me to engage with others in a compassionate way and listen - really listen through the use of the tools acquired.

The most important thing I take from this experience (which is difficult for me to pinpoint because there are so, so many useful skills I developed during this week!) is the ability to observe and understand power-over systems within me and pause in the moment to apply one of the liberation and connection tools and know that if/when I f*ck up, I get to celebrate myself and try again!"

Leila Minú

"The SHIFT is a promise fulfilling itself. It is creating a profound shift in how we see, experience, and guide our children, and at the same time opens our eyes to see how we, with all the good intentions in the world, are in some ways working against their unfolding and empowerment.

As participants we implemented the tools and reparented ourselves through learning the magic of choice and collaboration. Having had a lived experience of The SHIFT in a community of parents and grandparents, I feel so much more supported and confident this is how we as parents and grandparents can truly Be the Change - or more elegantly - Be the Shift that changes our world so our children can lead the way as SHIFTMAKERS in their world!"

Cindi Fisher

What is deschooling?

When we use the word deschooling, we’re referring to the process of change that comes from walking away from systems that are limiting and harmful.

Why is it important?

As our world changes, we are being asked to change with it. It can feel difficult to move away from societal systems that are limiting and harmful, especially if it feels like you’re doing that work alone.

We believe that such change can be internalized more easily with practice and support. We created this training to allow participants and facilitators to work together to look within and clarify our beliefs, values, and purpose and how our behaviors can better align with them.

By questioning the limitations of our society and fear-based beliefs and developing tools to reclaim our innate potential, we can build relationships based on equity, authenticity and choice and in doing so we set out on a new path towards radical learning and freedom.

"The Shift is an intensive experience of awakening to whatever inside of you is ready to shift in your personal growth journey. It is an opportunity to learn new tools that alter how you navigate life while expanding your capacity for empathy in uncomfortable situations with others. We learned about power structures and systems of oppression in ways that feel empowering to change your default beliefs. Information was shared every day that invited us to look deeper into ourselves to understand how these systems affect our beliefs. It was also an extremely connective experience where I learned what it felt like to be in an inclusive, liberated, consent-based community with open, honest, authentic folks who valued and supported each others needs and feelings while celebrating fuck ups along the way.

The Shift gave me many opportunities to lean on the community and trust the process. I experienced many moments of intense fear but because I was surrounded by such self-aware, compassionate, present and loving people  I was able to push through the fear and experience bravery in ways I’ve never known before.

I was able to look at my child-self and see her unmet needs and how they translated into deeply rooted fear-based beliefs. I now see how some of those needs and beliefs can be transmuted today and I have begun the healing.

I was hired as a facilitator at a brand new unschool that just wrapped up our first year. I have been asked to take over the program going forward and I’ve been excited, knowing this is my calling, but scared because I knew something was wrong and didn’t know what or how to fix it. The Shift gave me a roadmap of tools and a new understanding, propelling me into the role of a confident leader. Now I’m aware I can create a consent-based community that truly values each other's needs, authenticity, openness, acceptance and curiosity. I see my role as someone who supports young people to discover and own their needs and desires which will help them to become confident self-directed learners who trust their own instincts.

The Shift was one of the most powerful and life changing experiences in my life. I have read so many books and spoken to so many people about self growth and improvement but this brought my awareness to a whole new level. Since being home, I have shared these tools of connection with my family and I’m watching the effects ripple out. We have new words to express ourselves and we’re starting to create consent based egalitarian relationships out of the old co-dependent paradigm. I’m finding myself less annoyed with those around me, more compassionate instead of triggered, and able to express myself in the form of sharing needs and feelings rather than storming away or shutting people out. My only complaint is that I miss all the beautiful spirits I was in community with because their gifts and knowledge were so inspiring and comforting. Big thanks to Sari and Becka for creating something so immensely powerful and modeling for me what being “a facilitator” really means. What a gift."

Jessica Seevers

"The Shift, to me, is an opportunity to delve into and shift our internal landscapes, and the culture of our homes, communities, and the world overall. There were so many things that The Shift opened up for me, but the biggest was through one of the partner activities we did to enhance our listening. It showed my the necessity of softness in my life. This is still, 5 months later, opening up for me and being integrated. I also saw my habit of not honoring the wisdom of a child, which stemmed from the dishonor of my own wisdom when I was a child. These pivotal realizations, along with the community, resources, tools, systems, etc. that I learned during The Shift' are allowing me to truly face and address difficult truths within myself, in my home, and in community with love. As I work as a youth mentor, I've also been more confident to hold space for youth to self-direct.

I'd read just a little bit about The Shift before I knew I needed to be there. The scholarship made it accessible to me! I work as a teacher, and youth mentor for mostly BIPOC youth who have experienced significant trauma, and may experience it daily. I am also a doula, sound healer, and ceremonialist in training. The Shift honored the fact the work we do in community must first be done within. It integrated this knowing into the culture, and systems we learned and utilized during our days in Borike. The Shift allowed me to open up to spaces of my own healing that I hadn't before - giving me greater compassion and softness for myself, and allowing me to show up more fully and effectively for the youth I work with. The connections, practices, tools, etc. I learned at The Shift are still being integrated into my interactions with myself and the youth. I definitely am more able to hold space for healing, joy, and confidence in these youth as they traverse the challenges they meet daily. "

Shima

"It took me a month to write this testimony of my experience of The Shift for a multitude of reasons: once it ended, I knew I was changed, but I could not fully grasp how I had been transformed; I was in a personal state of limbo awaiting news of layoffs at my job; and lastly navigating reintegration into my “norm” proved to be more destabling than I imagined. A month later, here is what I have come to understand.

The Shift was an immersive experience that set a foundation for unlearning the conditioning I received from traditional school systems that had come to influence how I parent, work, and live. Thinking that I would receive tangible tools to transition to homeschooling, I surprisingly received so much more - a taste of an intentional community of adults and children leaning into our collective wisdom, ancestral knowledge, and creative joy to reclaim our humanity and our power.

While my intention in attending The Shift was to learn how to support my child and her learning outside of traditional systems, it also transformed my own ambitions and motivations for myself. I’ve started to think about my own separation from traditional work systems and integrate deschooling into my own life and the life of our family, not just for my daughter but for us all.

What this Shift now looks like for us in our home and for the other people who participate in caring for Kimaya is that we are engaging with each other from a more connected space. Our relationships can flourish through collaboration and cross-pollination, and the transition to deschooling has become a process for our entire extended family and community and not just for our little one. We have started to ask important questions about our values and beliefs, and I especially have started to lean towards building a life less dependent on traditional and oppressive structures. With my co-parent, I have been able to dig deeper with him into supremacy culture and how that shows up in relationship to the children in our family. While my co-parent could not attend The Shift, the learnings I brought back have helped him think about our role as collaborators with our child and interrogate the power over the system we were brought up in.

I think the most important thing I took away from the shift was that I have everything I need, and I can transform and change and make adjustments as I continue to learn ways of being that are more rooted in the values of community and connection that I have been craving."

Bulaong Ramiz